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Refine the Light, not the Shadow

Updated: Jun 29, 2019

You are your best advocate and perhaps your only advocate. When you look in the mirror, what do you see? Do you see your joys, accomplishments and goals? Or do you only see what you want to improve? It was Martin Luther King who said, "Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us."


We often reflect on our prior behaviors and decide how we can further grow. We see the errors we made, the possible decisions we could have altered and how we affected the people around us. It becomes very clear that life is a continuing learning process and perfection is not realistic. Most of us accept this premise, yet there is still a general tendency to be hard on oneself.

This is because we want to be the best version of who we think we can be. This version of who we think we should be now, however, always eludes us as it falls into the future of our expectations. As much as it is beautiful to be humble to grow and want to learn, it is equally as beautiful to be humble to love yourself and all of your fullness in the moment. A wise teacher mentioned that humility is not a state of thinking you are beneath another. Nor is it allowing your shadow to dim your own light. Humility is a feeling of equality between another and the state of grace between yourself. This means being comfortable with and acknowledging your weaknesses, as well as your strengths.

When you accept not only your opportunities for growth, but also all of the joys, loves, achievements, and successes, you embrace your light. And by doing this, you take ownership of who you are. Ultimately, you attract people who are on similar journeys who confidently exude love for themselves and are examples of individuals sharing their light in the world. These individuals will support and inspire you, as you to them. Others who find it difficult to tolerate your shining, will naturally be repelled. Everyone evolves in their own time.

In summary, be confident and radiate. You can be proud of so many things. If you only focus on the scribble on the clean sheet of paper, you miss most of what you're looking at. So face yourself with courage. All of you. And shine.

Listening Medicine
The pearl to refine is the light within you, not the shadow.


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